Small steps for the formerly disorganized!

Today starts another day that does not completely belong to me.  Does any day when you're a Mom?  ;)  Of course I wouldn't have it any other way, but sometimes I dream of a day or two when I can just get done what's on the list without interruptions, finish early and feel no guilt about sitting down and relaxing a bit!

Yesterday, I was able to get a good deal of purging, sorting and organizing in the new office/music room.  I had to rearrange the furniture to make it work which in return caused the room to lose that extravagant feel it had about it.  This arrangement is decidedly more efficient, but leaves me a bit saddened.  Perhaps when I finish hanging the pictures and the diploma on the wall I'll feel differently.  We shall see.

Anyway, this room has multiple purposes which makes it so challenging to organize.  I don't want to spend anymore money than I have to and thus need to get creative!  It will be used for work and so it needs to be really beautiful so that after a long day working with teenagers, I actually WANT to go in there!  It will also house my private lessons when that gets going so needs to stay professional-looking.  Finally, it is the place I'd like to kick my feet up and knit in, work on finally finishing those quilts I started years ago and do some scrap booking!

No wonder it seems crazy-hard to organize in a user-friendly way!  Oh well, I will not be daunted by this.  Today, I will hang up the wall items and remove the pictures that will eventually be hung in the hallway.  I will finish emptying the two boxes that have been sitting under the piano bench since we brought them over from the other house and I will get it all done before Sean and I leave for the AC Milan/Inter Milan game today!  Lots to do today!

Car Shopping! My least favorite thing to do!

Okay, so a few days ago, DH and I were walking in the new neighborhood and he suggests that I really should consider trading in his car, on which we're still paying, and get a newer/better car for me.  He will be driving his dad's car when the probate issues are finalized and we'd like to be able to give my paid-off car to #1 son when he gets his licence.  This all took quite a bit of convincing because as the one who writes the checks to pay the bills, I literally did a happy dance when we paid of the first car!  Getting out from constant financial debt is my personal goal.  I am so tired of seeing it all go away each week.  I was counting down the months till we were done paying on his Jeep Liberty and having NO car payments.  

His thought process makes logical sense though (darn it!) so by later that day, he was able to convince me to go with him to "just look" at a few cars and see what I though!

Now, my husband knows me well, and he knew darn well that once he had me sit in and test drive a few new cars that mine would feel like an old shoe - still loyal and emotionally committed, but no longer stylish and shiny-new!  Darn this man!

For 4 days, we researched in person and on-line, every Toyota, Nissan, Ford, and Hyundai we liked.  We've had success with many Nissans and Hyundai cars over the years and so that made sense.  We also know people who've loved Toyotas and they get such great reviews that it made sense.  The Ford was a fluke as my fist car was an old Escort lemon that needed a new engine in the first 18 months!  I happened to see a beautiful Edge though in the new "cinnamon" color and just had to try it!  I actually loved it, but didn't find the most reassuring write-ups on how it would hold up over the next 5-10 years!  (I must say to Ford's credit  - it felt and drove great!)

In the world of Toyota's, I preferred the models like the 4Runner, Land Cruiser or Sequoia, but didn't like the huge price tags!  I know, I know, you get what you pay for, but as a mom of two teenagers, there are other places the money needs to go!  I was looking more closely at the Highlander but I must say that looking at a new car in this day and age adds dilemmas.  I want something I will love for many years to come, so it needs to have all the bells and whistles.  At the top of the line with the Highlander, I'm looking at close to $40K!  There's no way I can justify that!

The final outcome of what feels like a lifetime of searching, reading, driving and haggling, is that we got the best deal on a new car from our local Nissan dealer!  They were low pressure and great listeners!  They openly heard what my concerns were price-wise and were even going to sell me an extended warranty on a used Murano I was buying elsewhere!  When they said maybe we should just run some numbers with them and see if they could even get close to what we were finally settled on elsewhere, we did.  I am so glad we did because their offer was the best and I will soon be riding in a brand new Murano that's loaded with almost every option I wanted for a great price!  (I guess I'll have to go to Target and buy a GPS!)

I am so glad it's all over with and can't wait to pick up the car!  It does pay to shop around and in my next post, I'll talk a little about what background work I did to be better armed to go into the fight!

The many faces of motherhood

Am I alone in the fact that I am constantly aware of the battle between roles in my life?  I find that with so much to do and so much on my plate, I am always thinking of the next thing that I have to do and who I have to call, or where I have to get my kids.  This ever-present turning wheel often prevents me from being fully present in the moment and thus I miss out on enjoying so much of life.  I am working to change this about myself.

Years ago I sold Mary Kay in order to earn a little 'fun' money and get some much needed adult conversation while being a stay-at-home mom.  One important lesson I learned from that experience was to think of myself as a "work-in-progress."  We used to do a lot with positive affirmations and tell ourselves "I am in the process of becoming....."  I think that's what I must do now. 

I love my job as music teacher.  I am able to spend time with young adults and watch them learn and grow.  Often, though, I watch them make mistakes that will affect their lives forever and in their typical teen aged mentality, they cannot acknowledge this fact.  I find this to be completely emotionally draining.  I am not always able to let it go.  They are not my children, but as educators, we often think of them as such.  As much as I know this is a weakness of mine, it also defines who I am and how I am able to relate to my students.  I feel that I must change this, but I fear the outcome if I am able to do so.

On a more positive note, I am quietly finding bits of the old self I used to be as I move my life and family from the town I grew up in.  Change is sometimes cleansing and this process, through grief and loss, has helped me to find some quiet place to take stock in what gifts I have and in what makes me happy and whole.  The answer to the latter is emphatically, my family!

My husband and children and our extended families are what make me most happy.  There are lots of things that I can do to add to the joy of life like singing, writing, knitting, scrapbooking, quilting.  All of these are nice and fun, but with the exception of the knitting, they also take away from my time with my family.  I think this is where our ancestors had it made!  The things they did to fulfill them all allowed them to stay present for their family.  There's nothing wrong with that.  For some of us, that's what it's all about!